Entries by Deborah Kevin

The Whack-a-Mole Approach

Have you ever had those days where you feel like you have a tiger by the tail or the tail is wagging the dog? Yeah, me too. I’ve noticed a particular pattern emerges when I’m in that state, and I affectionately call it the “whack-a-mole” approach to getting things accomplished. Here’s how it feels in […]

The Stories We Tell Ourselves

When I was twelve, my mother kidnapped me. She tried to take my younger brother, but he turned her away. The stories I told myself about that day played a large role in how I perceived myself for over thirty years. A year earlier, we’d come home to an empty house to discover that my […]

Reflections on the past year

This past weekend, I celebrated a birthday. That’s why this post was delayed—I wanted time to reflect on the past year and feel what I want to bring into the upcoming year. Plus, there was celebrating to be done! It’s fun to stop and look in one’s rearview mirror, and I find birthdays the perfect […]

Making Peace with Ourselves

Making peace with ourselves is not a small undertaking. The list of my mistakes resembles Santa’s Naughty or Nice scroll. I envision little errors recorded in a tiny Serif print while the colossal goof-ups scrawled in big, bold letters. Some are even written in neon, flashing, “You f’ed up.” I kept that scroll tightly rolled […]

Learning to Trust Myself

I sat back in the oversized conference room chair and swallowed hard, wiping tears from my cheeks, as my mentor issued my assignments. The day had been emotionally grueling. Each question he’d asked required me to write in a journal for forty-five minutes. My hand cramped by the end of the fifth or sixth question. […]

4 Lessons I Relearned the Hard Way

These past few weeks, I’ve been burning the candle at both ends, working long hours on really cool projects. Recently, I had four major coinciding deadlines, after which I had to refocus on existing projects to get caught up. I clearly had lessons to relearn! What a wake-up call for me! My body felt exhausted. […]

Challenges with Accepting Help

If you’re anything like me, you have had challenges with accepting help. I grew up in a military family, spent years as a Girl Scout, and have been on my own since I was seventeen. Being fiercely independent has long been one of my defining characteristics. As my son, Jack used to say as a […]

The Subtle Art of Hiding

Being visible, truly being seen, has been an evolution for me. I grew up in a household where hiding and invisibility were the norms. In fact, to avoid being seen, I turned down a dozen promotions that would have thrust me into an active leadership role. I perfected the subtle art of hiding in plain […]

Life by Subtraction or Attraction?

The oddest, most wonderful thought came to mind recently as I awoke one morning: I have been living my life by subtraction. Let me explain. The Big Ah-ha Several years ago, I had the privilege of being coached by Karen Salmansohn. One of the first exercises she had me complete was to examine my relationship […]

Leaning into Fear Brings Growth

Have you ever been intrigued by an activity for a while before you either decided to try it or opted to stop thinking about it? That’s how stand up paddle boarding (SUP) was for me. The first time I saw photos of someone standing on a SUP, I felt fascinated by the physics of the […]