How Fear of Being Seen Keeps Us Small

For several years now, I’ve been supporting entrepreneurs to write and publish their books. Our goal to get them to bestseller status. Together, we’ve experienced excellent outcomes. It’s always thrilling to witness their success. I feel a little like a mother hen watching proudly over her brood. I helped them overcome their fear of being seen.

The problem is that I hid behind their successes. I was the proverbial Wizard of Oz working my magic from behind a computer screen. I remained hidden, which is my safe zone. I’ve spent most of my career (and life) hiding, doing meaningful work with credit going to others.

So when the first book in which I’ve been published launched this week, My Camino Walk #2, I felt a combination of terror and excitement. I wanted to hide and not share with you my chapter, my story, of walking a portion of the Camino de Santiago de Compostela.

I’m proud of my story in My Camino Walks #2. That doesn’t mean there’s no fear associated with sharing it. My ego whispers, “It’s only an anthology, not your own book.” True, but it’s a fantastic anthology of twenty stories, full of wisdom, challenge, and joy. It’s an inspiring read for anyone who has ever set a goal and worked through fear to achieve it. (Read more about my Camino experience.)

What publishing this book has done for me is elevate my self-confidence. In fact, I opened the box containing my draft novel—a box sealed for over two and a half years—and finally feel ready to tackle the last major revision and get it in front of an agent. Publishing this first book has reignited excitement to publish my next book—and the one after that!

Where are you hiding behind your computer in a way that doesn’t serve you or your clients? I encourage you to push through that fear and climb that next big mountain. Trust me, the view is amazing!

If you find that you’re hiding and want to unpack why I invite you to join me on a Journey to discovery and changing the words we use in our stories.


7 replies
  1. Heather Waring
    Heather Waring says:

    I know how you feel. When I had my chapter published in My Camino Walk #1, I thought, ‘well it’s only one chapter’ and others told me ‘you are a published author, this is great,’ so I allowed it to sink in and then it made me excited for a whole book that I am writing and one that has been set aside. So yes, I can totally understand where you are coming from.

  2. Barb Parcells
    Barb Parcells says:

    I’ve got you beat. My “novel” has been in a box for 20 years! Even though I’ve published non-fiction self-help books, it’s my love of fiction and my fear of failure at it that I hide behind. Your words have given me hope.

  3. CK Kochis
    CK Kochis says:

    Whoa. Talk about hitting me like a ton of bricks. Prior to the passing of my oldest son, I published a digital magazine. My heart skipped a beat when I read, “The problem is that I hid behind their successes.” Oh my… That’s exactly what I did! Thank you for the awareness and insights! This is a game changer. I do believe I have work to do!

  4. Lore (like "story") Raymond
    Lore (like "story") Raymond says:

    BRAVA, again, on the success of your book, Debby! Like you, I’ve helped everyone else…now, I’m claiming that this is my year!
    Our friend, Katt Tozier, shared in January to celebrate 2018 as a “Portal Year”–a time of great opportunities beckoning all of us IF we left behind playing SMALL and all the BIG luggage we toted.
    I celebrate 65 turns-around-the-sun in October and the number 6 + 5= 11. Another sign.

    So, yes. I’ve walked through the gates and amazing opportunities with people, places, and things continue to appear on my path…including you.
    I am so grateful!


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